The road home

Its my only child’s birthday today. The day she was born I was walking on air. It’s a special day that we should celebrate together. But the last time I managed to see her on her birthday was exactly 13 years ago today. She was just 7 years old, a cheeky blonde chatterbox with a … More The road home

Hello Acceptance

I haven’t been writing much lately. I’ve neglected my blog about my PA struggles and therein lies the clue. That would be because I am spending more time in “Acceptance”. I’ve decided to drop the burden I’ve been dragging for over a decade. And its liberating. Its now 7 long years since I was in her … More Hello Acceptance

An Examination of Parental Alienation through Transactional Analysis

This post will probably only be interesting to alienated parents or people who enjoy psychology. In 1964 Psychiatrist Eric Berne wrote “Games People Play” to introduce his theory of Transactional Analysis about the dynamics of human relationships. I am not trained in psychology but I was fascinated by its potential to illustrate how the normal … More An Examination of Parental Alienation through Transactional Analysis

PA DAY Australia

Published to Facebook 12/10/16 Today is Parental Alienation Awareness Day. I have something to say. “Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are.” Benjamin Franklin   Many of you know my ongoing story. My daughter is 18 and I have shared less than 8 hours with … More PA DAY Australia

The Door

One day a happy little girl’s parents separated. She loved her Mum and Dad and they were both devoted to her. But she was taken by her Mum to live inside a huge walled city with her Mum’s new husband. She was given all she thought she needed in that city and quickly made new … More The Door

Coping with PA

A blogger wrote the question below to the group on a PA site. Although I am often struggling, I know there are others out there standing where I have already been -needing help. It helps me to help them. Below is my response to the group. Question: “What about the dynamics of guilt, remorse, grief … More Coping with PA


Parental Alienation Why? Why is it so hard? Why can’t I be in my daughter’s life? Why is it such an effort for me to accentuate the positive? The blessings in my life are rich and plentiful; Why can I not totally bury thoughts of requital? I don’t seek that; Why is it so hard … More Why?