Way back on 5/8/04 I received the following letter from my first family law lawyer. It has proven to be an eerie prophesy of things to come. More than a decade later this letter still haunts me and has unfortunately proven them spot on. “…it is apparent from the content of the letter from solicitors for your former wife that … More A Prophecy of things to come
I am lucky in that I have many opportunities to see theatrical performances of all types. Yesterday I saw Richard 111, one of Literature’s most treacherous villains. It struck me that Shakespeare would have possibly delivered his best and most incisive masterpiece if he had had some of our cases of PA with which to … More Shakespearean Tragedy here and now.
This post will probably only be interesting to alienated parents or people who enjoy psychology. In 1964 Psychiatrist Eric Berne wrote “Games People Play” to introduce his theory of Transactional Analysis about the dynamics of human relationships. I am not trained in psychology but I was fascinated by its potential to illustrate how the normal … More An Examination of Parental Alienation through Transactional Analysis
Today is my daughter’s 19th birthday. I haven’t seen her on her birthday since she turned 7 and Its been 6 years since we were in each other’s lives. So far today I haven’t been able to contact her. Wherever she is I send all my love and hope she is happy. Sir Richard Attenborough … More The Positive Path
Not the start to the new year that I was hoping for. Finally got through to my daughter, who has returned to Australia, to discover that she was more aloof, disconnected, angry, superior, blaming and cold than ever before. Seems it’s been one step forward and five back. Seems she is not receptive to my … More New Year – Same Promise
Milestones are the hardest. Today is my birthday. My sole birthday wish each year for the last 8 years has simply been to see my only child. That hasn’t happened. But today my wish is that she is having the time of her life on her European gap adventure and is too busy squeezing the … More Milestone Malaise
Published to Facebook 12/10/16 Today is Parental Alienation Awareness Day. I have something to say. “Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are.” Benjamin Franklin Many of you know my ongoing story. My daughter is 18 and I have shared less than 8 hours with … More PA DAY Australia
One day a happy little girl’s parents separated. She loved her Mum and Dad and they were both devoted to her. But she was taken by her Mum to live inside a huge walled city with her Mum’s new husband. She was given all she thought she needed in that city and quickly made new … More The Door
A few days ago my daughter left to travel around Europe for 6 months. She didn’t say goodbye. I don’t know where she is going but I imagine she will be in Paris at some stage. Paris is significant in our relationship and I thought I would share why it invokes special memories for me … More Of Pain and Paris
Originally posted on my FB page 10/6/16 Today my wife and I dropped into the little bank branch at the local market. They saw her surname and asked if she is Mr Thongchai _____’s daughter. My wife answered in the affirmative and they asked about his health but could not hide their amusement. Apparently he … More Thai Tellers tell us.
Let me paint a picture for you. Its a true snapshot of my previous couple of weeks. Perhaps it encapsulates some of what it is like to be a long term alienated parent. Achieving any contact with my only child has been an exhausting painful struggle for a decade and its been over 5 years since we last had … More Parental Alienation -A Life in Limbo